Missed the people at home far away, but couldn’t go home because they ran out of tickets or were forced to overtime? Being a migrant child is arguably a sweet bitter life experience. Especially when feeling homesick ( homesick ) hit the problem of distance, time and money. But if this holiday season you can’t go home, don’t be sad.
Feeling homesick is natural, really!
No need to be ashamed to admit that you miss your home. Moving to a completely new place means you have to change old habits to adapt to the surroundings. For example, as simple as going home from college or office, you now have to find your own meal, while when you were at home, you were waiting for your return with a plate of warm rice and your favorite side dish.
These environmental changes can undoubtedly disrupt your emotional and psychological condition. Not infrequently you can feel bored and not feel at home so eager to go home to feel the familiarity as before.
Some people may be able to experience physical complaints when they miss their home, such as abdominal pain, difficulty sleeping soundly , headaches, difficulty focusing and thinking clearly, always feeling tired, and having difficulty eating.
Homesick feeling may seem most burdensome for young people who have never stayed away from home for a while. Likewise in people who have previously had a history of depression and anxiety disorders, and those who lack support from their family or close relatives to migrate.
In addition, homesick risk is also reported to be highest in women and people who migrate because they are forced or not of their own volition.
A sense of homesickness is naturally experienced by overseas children. Because after years of spending your time growing up in one place with people who are known to be close, it certainly feels hard when you have to separate and build a new life without them.
From childhood, we are very familiar with the mindset that our home is the safest and ideal shelter. So when the situation requires that we move away from home, our subconscious considers this change to be stressful aka a threat to our well-being. Plus, our knowledge of foreign places is still very limited, so negative feelings arise about your new place of residence. Starting from fear, anxiety, not at home, to panic.
This thinking will continue to exist so that without realizing it creates a tendency to compare with your hometown. The more and the greater the difference between the two (for example, different languages, different cultures, and different foods), then these negative feelings will increasingly feel defeated. This certainly can make you more frustrated, and feel lonely and isolated.
Tips to overcome homesick for overseas children
When you are away from your hometown, feeling homesick is a natural thing. However, don’t let this longing have a negative impact on your health, both physically and psychologically.
Remember what your reasons for going abroad are. Also think about the long-term effects on your future life journey. When what is the reason for your seizure is finally over, whether it’s a lecture or work service, you will definitely feel proud of yourself because you can survive through all the twists and turns of living in a foreign place.
When chatting and videocalling are not powerful enough to treat the longing that has gone crazy eating away at the soul, try the following tips to get rid of loneliness:
1. Look for new activity
Based on American Camp Association research, one of the most effective ways to get rid of homesickness is to make yourself as busy as possible.
So, try to find as many positive activities as possible to fill your spare time and divert your mind from that longing. For example, “playing a role” should be a tourist and explore places that are unique in the area. Also dig up information about events that attract attention, such as sports competitions, music festivals, and theater performances.
It also doesn’t hurt to join a club or take a course. In addition to making you have a new schedule, it also opens up opportunities to make new friends and connections.
2. The bedroom decor is as comfortable as possible
For overseas children, the bedroom is not only a place to rest but also as a place after doing lots of activities and storing various important items.
Well, try to tidy up and rearrange your bedroom to be as comfortable as possible. If possible, ask the home person to send items that can remind you of them and put them in the bedroom as a reminder of your hometown. You can also ask them to send your favorite food at home.
Make your new room as comfortable and similar as possible to your room in an old house.
3. Confide in fellow overseas children
If homesickness is so strong that you feel sad and want to cry , don’t be detained. Cry until you feel more relieved. It doesn’t hurt to cry because adapting does take time and longing is natural.
Another way is to confide in someone you trust. Try sharing experiences with people who are also currently or have migrated. Many people out there are also in the same boat with you so you know you are not alone.
4. Find positive things about the place
When you are free, try sitting in thought and think about what positive things you have experienced so far in a new place.
For example, you can get the freedom you might not have gotten in a long time ago. Sulu when at home applies curfew so you cannot freely gather with friends of goods to play or complete assignments. While in this new place, you alone determine when the curfew is for yourself.
What else? Maybe the air and environment in the present place are far cleaner and more beautiful than your hometown. Now you might also no longer need to eat liver because you are annoyed with being stuck in traffic like you used to.
Taking notes on these positive things will help to “tidy up” your mind again. That way, you realize that not always something new and foreign is bad.
5. Consult a doctor
You can also take part in a counseling program with a psychologist to help reduce homesickness and anxiety .
It is very important to monitor your psychological condition so that it does not fall into the depression phase. Counseling is also very useful for detecting and treating depressive symptoms that may appear before it’s too late